Style Guide

These upcycled frames by Beauti SHE are my new favorite thing. Lovely!

I feel I should warn you. I haven’t had the need or opportunity to utilize a soap box in a really long time.

So please indulge me with the opportunity to dust it off and try it out.

This afternoon I ventured into the dangerous world of department store shopping. (Not that you care to know the details, but) my sons are getting their picture taken tomorrow and I want them to coordinate. Everyone needs at least one photo whereby all siblings are wearing embarassingly similar colors/prints.


I was disappointed stunned angry at the clothing I saw in the junior girls’ section of the stores I visited. I almost took pictures to illustrate my point, but I am sure that would be a no-no. Let me just say, the number of midriff-baring, thigh-exposing, tight-chested clothing with strategically placed holes was revolting.

Here’s the deal. Sexualizing elementary girls’ clothing makes less sense to me than Greek.

I will condense what I have to say into three simple points. 1) YOU may not think perverse thoughts when you see minors in sexy clothes, but I guarantee you creeps do. 2) Business school teaches us that the type of clothing we wear sends a message about who we are and how we view our job. So what does sexy school clothing communicate to and about our children? 3) Teach a child to flaunt it now and she will most certainly do it later–with more skill.

While I don’t condone women who choose to dress in an overtly sexual way, I understand why they do it. (Specifically, women have been trained to flaunt what they have. “You are what you have,” after all.) But I do believe that each female should have the opportunity to decide NOT to expose herself in that way. So even if you think the midriff-baring, thigh-exposing, tight-chested clothing is cute, respect your daughter enough to cover her up (i.e., dress her like the precious gift that she is) until she knows what she’s sacrificing when she decides to expose herself to the whole world.

Just my two (and a half) cents.


  1. AMEN!!! BTW, there is a reason we shop second hand. Most of the clothes there are modest!!!! =)

  2. And the bathing suits!!! Oh my!

  3. As a mommy to 3 little girls ages 4,2, and 3 months…I whole heartedly agree!! The oldest is just getting into the little girls department and let’s just say that I have no qualms with making her clothes myself! (ESPECIALLY when I need them all to match for a family picture!) Ha! Anyway, you are so right…I ask God every day for wisdom when my girls decide they want to give their two cents when it comes to what they wear!

  4. We went shopping a month ago and I was also shocked. You can either dress your daughter in a dress that looks like something a 6 month old would wear or in something that Julia Roberts would have wore before her makeover in Pretty Woman. I guess I will need to get out the sewing machine and start practicing for when my daughter gets older.

  5. I totally agree with you. I have a 9 year old daughter who has the body of a teenager. We have a very hard time finding appropriate cothing when shopping for her. I will not even allow her to wear shorts that have writting on the back side. NO ONE needs to be looking at my daughters’s bottom long enough to read something written there. I’m trying very hard to teacher her that her beauty come from inside of her not in the way she is dressed. It is a hard battle to fight with all the outside influence, but it is a battle with God in the lead that we will win.

  6. You are right on with this! As a mom to a 3 year old girl and aunt to nieces ages 7 through 12, I am terrified that the trends won’t change and I will have nothing to dress my daughter in! I refuse to buy those clothes even if my nieces want them for their birthdays!
    When will baggy overalls and big shirts come back in style?!

  7. Elizabeth says:

    As the mama of four girls, I hear you! It isn’t easy but I respect my daughters enough to take on the challenge. By the way, I am glad you dusted off your soapbox. Feel free to climb on it more often! :)

  8. I read this (and agree with it) and read the comments saying “here here!” and wonder, where are the parents who disagree? Then I think of my nephew’s recent grade EIGHT grad and the “dresses” some of the kids in his class were wearing (well, attempting to wear) and I know. They may not post proudly about their daughters super tight, revealing dresses, but they’re out there, encouraging them (sometimes even wearing the same things), oblivious to the path they’re laying before these precious girls.

  9. The way I see it, my children will have their whole lives to find the style that suits them. There is no reason to dress them in sexualized way even as a teen; let alone as a pre-pubescent child. I give them many choices with regards to their clothing as it is a way of helping them learn to make choices and begin learning/deciding how they want to present themselves to the world. However, I’m not going to buy or allow them to wear anything that a grown woman would need a bikini wax to wear. I truly don’t understand how so many people are in such a rush for children to enter the world of sex and sexuality. Because, you have to figure, companies wouldn’t produce and sell clothing like this if people weren’t buying it. I’m not saying that my girls (or any girls) should have to wear dresses down to floor, but for Pete’s sake, we shouldn’t have to buy a dress 3-4 sizes too big just to get it to knee length!

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