Advice from Pat Robertson: Don’t adopt.
Pat Robertson has long been linked to verbal disaster, but his latest response to a viewer’s question concerning adoption leaves me wondering if he understands what the gospel he claims to believe is even about.
Let’s break it down.
A viewer sent him the following question:
I am the mother of 3 adopted girls. I find the men I date are okay when I tell them I have 3 daughters, but when they find out they are adopted, and from 3 different countries and not my own biological children, they don’t want to date anymore. Whether I tell them upfront or after a couple of dates, all the men are reacting the same way. They say that they would be okay with it if the girls were biological children and came with child support. Why are these men reacting this way?
Suffice to say, men who are okay with a woman’s children so long as they are biological and come with child support are blockheads. But I digress. Pat Robertson’s response runs to verbal disaster faster than Usain Bolt ran the 100m relay final in the Olympics.
Some key quotes:
“A man doesn’t want to take on the United Nations and this woman has all these various children–blended family–I mean, what is it?”
It’s a family, Pat Robertson. We’re talking about 3 little girls, hardly the 193 member states that compose the United Nations. (Also for the record, the United Nations works to assist orphans in need of adoption.)
“You don’t know what problems there are. I’ve got a dear friend–adopted some kid from an orphanage down in Colombia–child had brain damage. You know, grew up weird.”
So many problems with this statement, so little time. 1) You don’t know what problems exist with an unborn child, either, or what problems could exist in the future. Potential problems exist for each of us. 2) Children with “brain damage” (his words, not mine) need a family as much as anyone. 3) Um. Been to a junior high school lately. WE ARE ALL WEIRD.
“And you just never know what’s been done to the child before you get that child–what kind of sexual abuse there’s been, what kind of cruelty, food deprivation, etc., etc.”
Exactly why they need a family.
“You don’t have to take on someone else’s problems.”
First of all, children are not “problems.” They are gifts (Psalm 127:3). Additionally, James 1:27 and its command to care for the fatherless means their distress is ours as well.
“We love orphans. We love helping people.”
Don’t bother, Pat Robertson. Christ loved me when I was an orphan with troubles innumerable, and He made me his child with no strings attached. He didn’t have to take on my problems, but He did. THAT is love. THAT is the gospel.
Without it, I wouldn’t have a prayer.