The Rush for Second Place











Each year on this day I find 54 minutes and 25 seconds in which I hunker down in front of my television set and re-live one of the best days of my life. Today marks the 10th year I have done this.

I love our wedding video for many reasons–the nervous energy, the outdated trends, the youth on all our faces. Each year, I scan the crowd with interest to find the friends and loved ones who are no longer with us. Here, at least, they are happy and healthy.

Luke and I took a small honeymoon with plans to take “a big trip” on our 10th anniversary. As life would have it, we will spend today separated by 500 miles. Either I’ve grown up a bit or else I’m delirious from motherhood, because I’m not even upset about this change of plans. I found it fitting that I watched our wedding video this morning with a 1-year-old sprawled out on my lap, one foot planted firmly on my face.

This is the life I didn’t know I wanted 10 years ago.

I feel like I should offer some sort of commentary on marriage, but I am still a newbie by my ancestors’ standards. So instead, I will leave you with the admonition from our pastor on June 28, 2003. Pastor David Doran was gracious enough to speak truth to 2 fresh-faced kids without a clue in the world how much work a good marriage takes. Little did Pastor know he would preach this sermon to me year after year in which I am slowly beginning to comprehend his words–

If you’re going to love the way that God wants you to love, it must be the purpose of your heart always toward each other to love as Christ did. Today you are making the decision to put someone else ahead of you for the rest of your life.

Hopefully next year I’ll be better at it than I am today.



  1. Linda Garrison says:

    I want to tell you how beautiful your wedding picture is. You have encouraged me as an old married lady of 38 yrs. May each of us continue to grow and love our mates and put them ahead of us. Through the years my plans have changed and I accept them and continue to thank God for His choice for my life. Happy 10th Anniversary!

  2. obscure1 says:

    What a lovely dress and serene face, and a handsome groom from what we can see! 😉

    I admire you as a Proverbs 31 woman, Trisha. I long to have a lovely little wedding, to be a bride, but I don’t want to be a wife … and that may present with a problem! I’m “not that young anymore,” but I just don’t feel a wife is something I can be. I may well be called to remain single. But I sincerely admire wives a great deal. A very great deal.

    Thank you for sharing, and for sharing the pastor’s fantastic entreaty. I’ll save that one. That’s most definitely the right approach.

    God bless you, your marriage, and your family. :-)

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